A couple months ago, after the funeral of a dear old family friend, I was inspired to finally get my mom on tape. She used to have so many stories. I never wrote them down thinking I’d never forget, though I encouraged her to do so, which she never did. Sadly, now her memory is really starting to fail, and mine isn’t as keen as it used to be either. So I encourage all you who read this to consider doing the same. But in this age of technology, most of you probably already have.
I was going to keep this video private, as it’s probably only of interest to me, but I wanted to post it to honor my mom and the relationship we’ve had. (I’m so sorry the voices are not in sync with the video, I don’t know why that happens!) Like other mothers and daughters, I have had challenges with my mom, there’s certain things that were lacking, but I’ve always admired her independence, determination, perseverance, and know-how. She was the carpenter and repair person in the family, long before she lost her husband. And then she went on to raise me as a single parent, while mourning yet another loss in her life. Through it all, she has always been quick to laughter, the first person that would welcome you at a social event, and always loved to sing and partner dance. She met her beau Paul when they were in their late seventies, and they’ve been “keeping company” ever since. It’s never too late to find love!
Most of all, I so appreciate her open-mindedness and complete fearlessness, for herself, and later when it came to me. She never tried to talk me out of anything, even when I went travelling abroad for five months, leaving her lonely, or when I started exploring other religions and ideas, which may have conflicted with her Christian upbringing. Spirituality and travelling were loves of hers too.
So Mom, I make this post for you, in honor of Mother’s Day. I know that even though it’s not something you dwell on, I also know it’s hard for you to come to terms with losing control, feeling like your “slipping away” and coming to the end portion of your life. It’s hard for me too. But we’ll keep our sense of humor, together.